Who you love and who loves you back

I had a supervisor once, who asked unexpected questions. We sorted out complicated cases on the big flip chart and connected the different situations to see parallells, similarities and repetitions in the system. I laughed at Maslow's expression "I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail." Until I realised that that was exactly where I got stuck. I pounded and pounded, convinced that I had the best tool. "So", the supervisor said, "what if you do it the other way around?"  

I try to remind myself of that, even though it usually becomes too late. And I am now, with three weeks to go, making new friends. That would be a quite clear way of not using the hammer to end everything around me, wrap it up and put it into the boxes that will soon be shipped away. It might be a way of avoiding the impermanence of things, however, it is also about daring to attach to people that soon will be gone from my everyday life, knowing that I can live with the loss. "Who you love and who loves you back determines so much in your life."