And it is not pretty...

I admit I was quite upset. Or maybe annoyed. I had the feeling that she didn't pay enough respect for my time and my schedule and at the same time I was stuck in some kind of dependency on her. So when we couldn't find a time for our meeting, despite the fact that I had been trying to solve this since September, I found myself in a situation where it was impossible to be clear and set a boundary and therefore totally justified being a little passive aggressive. Just a little... I read the email through ten times before I sent it and felt quite satisfied with my own level of passive aggressiveness. I usually think that there is never a reason for that; either you address your criticism or you let it go. But this time I felt I had my reasons. I felt good.

Two hours later I had dinner with my husband and brought this topic up. I was so sure about my newly created theory that there are situations when passive aggressiveness is the right way to go. He looked quite sceptical and said; when one is passive aggressive, what is one gaining? And then he described the situation from the other person's potential point of view. Well, I tried to justify it all once again, but I couldn't even convince myself. There is clearly nothing to gain. And I hate when I am so easily proved wrong. Anyway, the email is already sent. And I assure you, it is not pretty.